A Guide for Caregivers

When I found out Ron had cancer, my world was turned upside down. The news hit me like a tidal wave, crashing over me and changing everything in an instant. One moment, we were dreaming of our future together; the next, we were facing a scary diagnosis and an uncertain road ahead. 

 

My life was forever altered, and every day became a balancing act – managing medications, doctor's appointments, and treatments, while trying to hold on to some semblance of normalcy.

 

Even routine responsibilities, like caring for our dogs, required extra planning. I'd have to find pet care and leave my home for extended periods. I was lucky my children were older but I still had to leave my high school daughter for weeks at a time. At one point I stayed in the city for a month away from her. This only adding another layer of stress to an already overwhelming situation.

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I own my own business and that took a hit because I couldn’t do everything that needed to be done. Thanks to my office staff, they stepped in and took on extra work and more to help out. It was hard to juggle work, finances, and be there for the kids while facing the fear that had invaded our lives. 

 

My outlook on life has changed. This can happen to anyone. One day everything is fine and the next it’s not. I often feel like I'm living in a dream, like this can't be my reality. My heart races at times and I feel like I can’t breathe. It's surreal, and you just try to make it through the day. The stress, anxiety, and depression that accompany this caregiving role are debilitating, and I've had to navigate those challenges alongside Ron. 

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One of the biggest challenges for me is that I want to protect my husband from fear and pain. I want to shield him from the unknowns and the worries that come with this diagnosis. As his partner, it's hard to see the person you love going through this, and it's changed our relationship in many ways. 

With the support of our friends, and the community we have never felt alone. They have been a lifeline, offering a listening ear, a helping hand, and a shoulder to lean on. 

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Connecting with other caregivers and families going through similar experiences has been invaluable. I have learned so much from them. It’s given me a sense of solidarity and reminded me that I'm not alone in this journey.

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As a caregiver, I've learned that it's not just about providing physical care; it's about being an advocate, a supporter, and a partner. It's about cherishing the moments we share, finding joy in the small victories, and holding on to the love and connection that keeps us going.